3 Signs You Aren’t Living In Alignment With Your Authentic Self

Living in alignment with your authentic self can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment in life. When we are true to ourselves, we are more likely to make decisions that are in line with our values and goals. However, it's not always easy to live authentically. A month or so ago I wrote about 3 ways to know you ARE in alignment. In this article, I want to go over 3 ways you may not be living in alignment with your authentic self and how to get back on track.

1. Not expressing your true feelings

   One way you may not be living in alignment with your authentic self is by not expressing your true feelings. This can happen in many situations, such as at work or in a relationship. You might be afraid of conflict or worried about how others will react to your feelings. However, by not expressing yourself, you are not living in line with your authentic self. It's important to remember that your feelings matter, and they deserve to be heard. You’re not responsible for protecting anyone from your authentic emotions and feelings. Once you begin to express yourself you will feel an immediate sense of liberation.

2. Comparing yourself to others

   Comparing yourself to others is another way you may not be living in alignment with your authentic self. When you constantly compare yourself to others, you are measuring yourself against someone else's standards. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and a sense of not measuring up. Keeping up with the Jones’ is a real thing. How many times have you been around your friends and the conversation dives into what other people are doing, how much money they’re making/spending? This is so pervasive in our culture. Look at the pitfalls of social media, marketing and the beauty industry. The market is predicated on selling you goods that prey upon your insecurities to make you feel better about yourself. Don’t buy their ads, instead, become more aligned with your authentic self.

3. Not setting boundaries

   Not setting boundaries is another way you may not be living in alignment with your authentic self. When you don't set boundaries, you may allow others to treat you in a way that doesn't align with your values or needs. This can lead to feelings of frustration, bitterness, resentment, and a sense that you’re being taken advantage of. I think a lot of men miss this mark a lot. Setting boundaries is sometimes seen as a sign of weakness. Instead, I’d suggest you to look at this as a form of strength. In order to be in alignment with yourself, you’re going to have to set boundaries. Setting boundaries is honoring your authentic self and is the sign and mark of a strong and confident person who is clearly living in alignment.  

In conclusion, living in alignment with your authentic self is important for your overall well-being and happiness. With that said, on Sunday, April 23rd, I’m launching a 7 day challenge titled “The Alignment Method.” It should only take about 20 minutes a day. For the most part it’s a mental exercise/journaling exercise to run a full system check on yourself and your level of alignment. If you’re looking for a solid foundation to start doing your own inner work, I’d urge you to go to my homepage and sign up for it. It’s completely free and there are no strings attached. If you have any questions, feel free to shoot me a message/DM. 

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